• PTA Council Parenting Committee Book Club

    Book Club will be reading The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence by Jessica Lahey. Our first meeting will be determined based on who will join the book club. The book club will meet via zoom 7-8 pm.  If you are interested in joining or have questions about the book club please email Lynn Cukaj at lynncukaj@yahoo.com


    Healthy Parental Practices (click here to download)

    A suggested guide of ideas to assist in the parenting of children and adolescents. This guide was created through my work as chair of the Education Committee, the Somers PTSA community, and Somers High School Administration


    1. Listening without being defensive, judgmental, or wanting to fix the problem: listening more than speaking
    2. Kids need to problem solve and achieve their own solutions
    3. Allow children to attempt to problem solve issues with others before stepping in and attempting to take over to resolve for them
    4. Recognizing your child for who they are and not who you want them to be by having realistic expectation on skills and interests
    5. Ask your child how they need your help if at all before taking action on bullies/trouble socially
    6. Allowing your child to have age appropriate decision making: autonomy when deciding to do an activity or sport or academic decisions
    7. Prioritizing and balancing life’s activities: parents need to lead by example
    8. Ask questions to your child about what they want to do: what motivates them? What interests them?
    9. Learn how to help your child de-escalate: teach coping skills to build resiliency: Kids need to feel and tolerate stress
    10. Allowing your child to have age appropriate decision making: autonomy when deciding to do an activity or sport or academic decisions
    11. Understand your own emotional state prior to reacting and speak in a calm, concise, direct manner: count to 5 and think about what you’re are going to say first before your speak
    12. Model how to manage anger: have angry rules (don’t hurt yourself, don’t hurt others, don’t destroy property)
    13. Notice positive things, say positive things, and positively reinforce
    14. Find time to do family quality time away from TV/electronics/phone-game night and/or family dinners. Discussions can be about the highs/lows of the week and related feelings.
    15. Don’t give feedback/coaching after games/plays etc.-kids have a coach/director that provides guidance. Parents should be there to support not fix deficiencies.
    16. Encouraging kids to socialize with friends in a socially interactive way-talking/sharing rather than being on phones next to each other.
    17. Teach your kids to properly answer the phone and engage via phone with adults/others
    18. Take an interest in their interests-music, you tube channels and share your interests-take turns
    19. Model compassion through action or by discussing a TV or movie scene
    20. Can always call if need a ride